How much more patching will be needed for a sore/broken heart? Is the below image example of enough?
I was in a relationship that ended quite recently, it felt as if we were like Bernadette and Howard (they are a very cute couple).Since I'm single now i just feel like Raj alone..
I figured that I should write about it since I don't have those types of friends that will usually sit down and talk to you about this stuff, especially being a guy that emotion lacks. Breakups are always hard, there is no way of it being easy no matter who breaks up with whom, there will be the heartache and sadness and yes I broke down into tears as if I was a little girl. Unless your relationship was just a joke and you treating each other like shit then yeah I guess it won't mean much and it's a walk in the park.
I guess the price of love is pain when it's all over. So how exactly do you get over it? Some will say cut the person out of your life and let go and just move forward, because letting them stick around will be a more painful reminder of what was. That may be easy if that person didn't mean much to you, but what if she/he meant more than anything in the world to you? Like you would cross the boarder of the earth for, walk through fire and brimstone for, swim the deepest depths of the world's oceans for (even though you can't swim to save your own freaking life). What do you do then?
I personally think it's fine if that person gets to be in some form a part of your life going forward whether it's a big or small it's still some way part of your life, it may be awkward and weird to others but it will make sense to the two of you. I feel that it's easier and better rather than cutting the person who meant so much to you in that relationship out of your life. The person that ends the relationship does it for good reasons and you can't disrespect them or treat them like trash and throw them out, make them seem as if they're the worst person on earth for doing something like that to you.
I loved my ex-girlfriend I still have love for her and I do care for her, we've known each other for ages and come along way together and been through some life altering changes. She's been around when most people left me behind, especially at the times when I needed them most. I don't hate her for breaking up with me, it's sad and painful to think that I won't get to hold her hand, hug her, kiss her, or play with her hair and ears (I think I have a thing for ears, maybe that's why I'm so into Elves, I should have been born in middle earth). I chose not to cut her out, she doesn't deserve that, things ended mutually with no bitterness and still a whole lot of respect and care remained for one another. People can say that I'm crazy, just a fool and that I'll be torturing myself for no reason, but that's their opinion I know what's right for me.
So I have chosen to go with the music route to help mend the heart of mine, it will be hard since there a plenty songs that will remind me of her and I may shed some tears, but I know it will make me smile eventually because I'll have all the best memories and feelings to remember and think about. She gave me that for sure, before her I never knew what love was and she showed me how it feels.
I don't think you should hate the person that leaves you, be grateful for what they have given you no matter how big, small, silly, odd or weird things they have done it was always out of the goodness in them. I'll always care about her because before she was my girlfriend she was my friend, and now that I lost my girlfriend I still have my best friend and I can smile about that see :-) that's a big one too.
So ways to move on for me at least I can see that I should be a gown up and accept it no matter how hard it is, do not develop any bitterness or hate towards her, try and find things to do, don't just sit around and mope that only brings more tears, and most of all don't give up this is not the end and in time everything will be fine.
Then the patching will come off and I will be whole again.....
